As near as I call tell, the military was a way off the farm originally and eventually became a way to support a growing family. That times were hard is evident as I recall a string of moonlight jobs as far back as I can remember to stretch his military paycheck. I am honestly not sure if he longed for another job but he worked hard to excel at what he did. One of the reasons the promotion was left on the table was that it would have moved from a position of 'doing' to a position of 'administrating'. This change didn't suit him and he recognized it was time to move on. Later, however, he would find that teaching suited him just fine. Dad always gave good advise - I just always found a way to ignore it. Now I have to make due with "what would Dad advise in this situation"? Usually, if I take the time to ask myself this question, I already know the answer but need a reason to do the right thing. Wish he was here to give you some guidance that you could go about ignoring. I could use a some advise myself. Despite ignoring his good advise, once I made a decision, I knew I had his full support - win, lose, or draw. Trust yourself and I am sure Dad would back you up 100%. I know I will.