From this morning:

Me: Olivia, you know what today is?

Olivia: GAME DAY!

Vanessa: Don’t worry, she’s dressed for it.

Me, walking over and seeing her in a Notre Dame shirt: Hey! What about the Texas gear today?

Olivia: Daddy, chill out. I wear Notre Dame.


Being A Dad Without A Dad

As I’ve mentioned in 2003, 2004 and 2007 on this blog, September 19th is the anniversary of the death of my father.

Picture of my father

James G. Kraft 1943-1997

With grief, some days are better than others. Some years are better than others. 14 years is a long time and, while I think of him often, I don’t feel “grief” often anymore. I went a couple of years hardly remembering the anniversary.

Enter kids into the picture. Olivia is two and Catalina is 7-months old. A by-product of now being at home with the girls is I lack adult interaction for the majority of my waking life, so I have a bit more time to ponder things than I once had. (Seriously, there is only so many times I can play our “Match The Letters” game before my mind just has to multi-task.) In those random times, most notably when I am challenged by Olivia’s “twoness” manifesting itself or Catalina’s ability to stay perfectly still until the moment that the diaper is off, I find myself running through the gambit of emotions tied to grief.

There’s anger. There are moments of denial when I realize that the girls will never know him on this side of heaven, God willing. But, mostly, emptiness. Read More

Now, 154,001

According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 154,000 married fathers care for their children under 15-years old at home full-time while the mothers worked outside of the home.

Now, the number is 154,001.

I am officially a stay-at-home dad, a stay-at-home father, a house dad, SAHD, househusband, a house-spouse.

How? What? When?

There are a number of reasons that led us to this point including availability of maternity-inclusive, lower-deductible health insurance and that I have a better skill set for working freelance than V. She went back to the school she taught at previously; now in administration. I resigned from the Knights of Columbus. In addition to taking care of Olivia and Catalina, I’ll develop websites (more on that later).

This looks to be extremely challenging. It’s one thing to be told no by someone you just met when trying to sell them insurance. It is another thing completely to handle your two-year old yelling no at you. Completely different skillset. My goal is to share some of the more unique experiences here on the Daddy’s Corner segment. As soon as I can figure out how to get through a day doing everything needed to run my part of the household before 1 a.m, I’ll let you know the schedule.

photocredit: flickr:pmeidinger